What Is Family Dispute Resolution (FDR)?

Family Dispute Resolution, usually called FDR, is a specific form of mediation for separated families dealing with parenting and care arrangements. It exists because the research is clear: outcomes are generally better when families reach their own agreements than when a judge makes the decision for them.

FDR is conducted by an accredited practitioner trained not just in mediation process, but in the specific dynamics of family separation and the wellbeing of children caught in the middle.

The process typically begins with each party attending an individual pre-mediation session before the joint session. This is one of the most valuable parts. Being heard one-on-one, without the other person present, often allows people to articulate things they struggle to say in a joint setting. It also gives the mediator a fuller picture of what is actually happening for each person.

In New Zealand, From 1 July 2025, FDR through the government’s contracted provider is fully funded, available at no cost to eligible families through Fairway Resolution. If you prefer to work with a private mediator for reasons of timing, choice of practitioner, or confidentiality, private FDR is available as well. Working privately means you choose your mediator, set your own schedule, and proceed without waiting.

If you’re navigating a separation and need to reach agreements about your children, FDR is often the most direct path to a resolution that works for your family — and, more importantly, for them.